You can imagine the scene, Prince Charming slides the slipper on to Cinderella’s foot, it fits! Hurray! Time for celebrations, a flash wedding. There’s only one thing, the Prince leans over and whispers into Cinderella’s ear ‘Ummm, actually Cinder’s I’m skint as anything too. Spent all the royal gold on bitcoin and now that’s collapsed. Don’t suppose a quick wedding at the registry office would be ok? Buttons could be the witness…’ Most of us haven’t been out looking to marry a millionaire but there are certain things you expect in a relationship and a new survey from Shepherds Friendly and psychologist and relationship expert, Dr Becky Spelman has a few surprising insights.
The survey from Shepherds Friendly looks at the impact of money on relationships had a few findings which really interested me, for a start 22% of men and 36% of women agreed that money plays a part in how attractive they find a partner while 22% of men and 31% of women said that how much a partner earns affects whether they would pursue a relationship with them. You can view the full survey here which has more information about couples views on bankruptcy and saving for the future. I started going out with my husband when I was 19 and we were both at college so I think it’s fair to say that income didn’t play much part in it (unless you count the ability to buy a cheap pint) but if I was single now I don’t know if I’d date a man who was a student just working evenings, having kids is an expensive business!
Of course my opinion isn’t everything (as my kids would certainly agree) so I asked some other bloggers if someones income has ever influenced if they would go out with them or not and these were their responses.
“I can honestly say that no, someone’s financial situation has never influenced my decision to go out with them. I always tried to base my decision on whether or not they made me laugh” Vicki – Family Travel With Ellie
“Income is not a topic that has usually come up before the first date so I’ve never had the opportunity to decide either way but I’d like to think it wouldn’t matter. However I’m from a culture where a men are seen as the breadwinner so I can see how it could influence the decision for some” Victoria – The Growing Mum
“No, never. I’ve always ended up in relationships where we both earn a modest income, rent a house (rather than own property) and such. I fell in love with these guys for their personalities and how well we got on. I have, however, been on dates with people who like to tell me how much they earn, will only wear designer clothes etc but frankly, came across as arrogant and insecure so I left sharpish! I do have a few friends who won’t even contemplate dating someone without a comfortable income though. I’m not going to lie – I understand why. Constantly living on the breadline with no end in sight and working 45 hour weeks with not much cash to show for it is hard work!” Lisa – That British Betty
“No it’s not and I hope it never does! That being said, I also wouldn’t be with someone who was unemployed and not doing anything proactive about getting a job or running a business. But otherwise income wouldn’t be an issue” – Victoria – Healthy Vix
“Only if their income gave them a massively ego/attitude problem or superiority complex” Clare – Wild Mama Wild Tribe
“Sort of. I’m not the type of woman that want to be kept, never have been and I hope I never am. But at the same time I don’t want to keep a man. I want someone who has the get up and go to support themselves not just sit and have things handed to them on a plate. It’s their attitude to strive for their dreams that influences me not what they earn. ” Candace – Buckets of Tea
Would income influence if you had a relationship with someone or does it not matter to you if a partner has money or not?