‘You’ time, you want it, you need it and you deserve it. Each day you wake up with good intentions. Today is the day you will wake up an hour earlier than the children to go for a run or will use the nap time for a facial and pamper. But somehow, something always gets in the way. A sink full of dishes, a basket full of laundry, grocery shopping, something always prevents that barrier between you and some ‘you’ time.
After a while, taking care of everyone and everything else above yourself can cause you to feel burnt out all of the time. This and the fact that there are only 24 hours in a day can cause you to neglect taking care of yourself physically and emotionally. You don’t want to become one of those mums that have forgotten all about the things that make them passionate. In order to be a good parent and a good person, you have to be happy and nurture yourself. Here are some tips to help you accomplish some you time, for even the busiest of parents.
Change how you prioritise your list
You’ve probably got a to-do list that is a mile long, but have a quick glance at it now and try and find how many things that are on the list that is just for you. How far up on the list are those things? If they are not in the top 3, then it time to reprioritise. Self-care needs to come first so that you are able to put your best self forward throughout the rest of your day.
Have you been dreaming of a massage for a while now but just haven’t found the time? Make it a priority at the top of your to do list. It is not selfish to prioritise yourself; you need it. You’ll feel much more relaxed and happier, meaning your much more fun with the children.
Don’t strive for perfection
No one is perfect and constantly trying to be perfect is a very time consuming and life consuming way to be. It is best to aim for a balanced and happy life rather than a perfect one. Life will always throw things at you. As a parent, you are going to be late, there is going to be a mess in your house, things will get broken. Embrace the humour in the situations and make the best of them.
Talking about your mistakes and worries can make a huge difference and lift a great weight from off your shoulders. Connecting with other parents who can relate to what you are going through is a great way to share your problems. Get yourself a premium coffee subscription, grab a cup and laugh about the flat tire on the way to football practice. Mistakes are all part of growing as a person and as a parent.
Introduce exercise in a fun way
Every list will tell you that exercise is a vital part of self-care, and it is true. However, the thought of running on a treadmill is somewhat of a worst nightmare to some people. Exercise really does have an immediate positive impact on your mood, but it doesn’t have to be boring. Set up an obstacle course in the garden with the children and involve them in becoming more active or put on some music and make a dance routine with the kids.
Find a way to combine things that bring you happiness with your exercise routine. It will mean a healthier and happier you, which also means a healthier and happier family.
Have space that is just yours
This will be different depending on your circumstances. Some families don’t have the option to make an entire room solely just for one person. But it is important to have some sort of space in your home that is fully yours. Let your family know that sometimes you may just need a little while in your own space.
Use this time to do something that relaxes you. Read a book, knit or just think quietly. Any time you begin to feel stressed or out of control, take a few minutes in your space and you will come back feeling relaxed and happier. You and your children will benefit from a fun and happy mum.